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Stressed? Breathing can calm you down . . .

I tell people, when they are going to court to talk to a Judge, to breathe through their nose.  I tell them this, because this gets oxygen to your brain and you can think better.

I do not know about you, but the first thing that happens when I get nervous, and feel on the spot (like when you are standing in front of the judge and he/she is asking you questions) – I stop breathing normally. When I stop breathing normally, I can’t think.

“Breathe” I tell people. “Take in a breathe” than answer the question. Today.com tells about how your breathing alters your body and may cause panic or clam you down – just in the way you breathe.

This is an excellent article and a good read.  http://www.today.com/health/here-s-how-slow-breathing-calms-you-down-t109837?cid=eml_tst_20170417


Navigating the Divide

It happens. It happens some times that when parents split up, one or the other moves away. What do you do when you have children involved? Here at Do-It-Yourself Legal we are sensitive to this dilemma and work hard to assist you in developing parenting plans and schedules that address these needs.

Distance between parents and their children, just means we need to be creative so the parental relationship is not lost.

The article from The Good Parent Project helps to shed some light on this from a parental point of view.  https://goodmenproject.com/families/the-good-life-long-distance-dad-or-deadbeat/


As Parents it is tough to watch our children weather life’s storms

Your children matter!

Children are the most important people in our lives, that is why here at Do-It-Yourself Legal want to help you transition into a residential schedule that protects them from your marital disputes.

Oprah’s book club shares this article about the vulnerability of parenting through difficult times and offers good insight.

“Life is not safe, and so our task is not to promise our kids there will be no turbulence. It’s to assure them that when the turbulence comes, we will all hold hands and get through it together. We do not promise them a heartache-free life, but we do assure them that the slings and arrows won’t kill them— in fact, they will make them kinder, wiser, more resilient. We look them right in the eye, point them to their pain, and say: “Don’t be afraid, baby. You were born to do this.”

Read more: http://www.oprah.com/inspiration/glennon-doyle-melton-parenting-children-of-divorce#ixzz4af2JrA1I

http://www.oprah.com/inspiration/Glennon-Doyle-Melton-Parenting-Children-Of-Divorce


Survey says mosts do not have a Will

According to KOMO News:

Sooner or later, all of us are going to die – but most of us don’t have a will.

In fact, only 42 percent of the adults in this country have prepared estate planning documents, such as a will or living trust, according to a new study from Caring.com.

The main reasons people gave for not having a will were: they hadn’t gotten around to it yet and they didn’t have enough assets to leave to anyone.

“If you don’t mind letting the government decide what happens to your stuff, if you’re not there, then you don’t need a will,” said Katie Roper, vice president of caring.com. “But most of us would prefer to have some say over what happens.”

It’s not just what happens to your assets. It’s also who takes care of the kids. And that’s the really scary finding in this survey. Only 36 percent of the people with young children have a will.

“If you don’t deal with this, you’re potentially leaving your children and the people caring for them with a terrible mess,” Roper said.

It’s critical for anyone with children or financial assets to have a will.

http://komonews.com/sponsored/wafd/financial-focus-tips/survey-most-americans-dont-have-a-will


Is your WILL effective?

The Today Show posts: “You may have smoke alarms in your home, but will they actually do their job when you need them the most?”  This may be a questions to ask yourself about your Estate Plan.  Do you have a Last Will and Testament?  Does your family know the plan for your wishes?  It may be possible your plan has not been written or is out of date.

This is a good time to see.  Please join us for our Last Will and Testament Seminar:

Last Will & Testament and Estate Planning Seminar

March 2 @ 6:00 pm7:30 pm

WHAT: Last Will and Testament and Estate Planning Seminar
WHEN: March 2, 2017  6 to 7:30 p.m.
WHERE: 1904 Pacific Avenue, Everett, Washington
COST: FREE  (Reservations required: Call now to reserve yours (425) 710-4095

Of course, it could be, just like your current Estate Planning, that your smoke detector no longer works.  Check out this article to read more vital smoke alarm tips.  http://www.today.com/home/are-you-sure-your-smoke-alarms-work-learn-3-vital-t107902?cid=eml_tst_20170216


Do-It-Yourself Legal is all about saving you money.  We offer a FREE 20 minute consultation.

When faced with a legal issues, we would love to help you problem solve.  We may not be your only call, but we would like to be your first call.

There are lots of ways to save money on a daily basis, and one of those ways are grocery shopping.  According to EveryDollar, “A new Gallup Poll reports that 55% of Americans are spending more on groceries this year than last year. We’re 100% sure you can save on your grocery budget with a little planning, savvy shopping skills and expense tracking. Try these tweaks to save on your grocery budget (no coupons required)!”  There are some simple steps, but they take planning.  Check out this link for ideas: https://www.everydollar.com/blog/save-on-groceries

 

 

 


Raising Strong Children – separately

Is your parenting plan up to date?  Are you putting your children first and truly thinking of their future?  This Facebook post may inspire you.

This dad says: “It’s my ex-wife’s birthday today so I got up early and brought flowers and cards and a gift over for the kids to give her and helped them make her breakfast. Per usual someone asked me why the hell I still do things for her all the time. This annoys me. So let me break it down for you all.

I’m raising two little men. The example I set for how I treat their mom is going to significantly shape how they see and treat women and affect their perception of relationships. I think even more so in my case because we are divorced. So if you aren’t modeling good relationship behavior for your kids, get your shit together. Rise above it and be an example. This is bigger than you.

Raise good men. Raise strong women. Please. The world needs them, now more than ever.”

Call and schedule your FREE appointment to discuss your children and your parenting schedule.  (425) 710-4095


Buckle up for the ones you love

Remind the people you love to “buckle up” and show them you love them by wearing your seat belt.  Do it because it is the right thing to do, not just because it is the law.

Marco’s story will inspire you to give the little reminder to wear your seat belt.  There are other things you can do for the ones you love and we, at Do-It-Yourself Legal, would love to help you.  That is why we are inviting you to our Last Will and Testament / Estate Planning Seminar, March 2, 2017.  Call to reserve your seat, and please – buckle up today.

http://ut.zerofatalities.com/marcos-story/


Your Family Is Important, so is your time, make them both count

Your family is important and so is your time.  Why not make them both count and focus what is most important to you – your family.  King 5 News shares this:

Does it sometimes feel like there just aren’t enough hours in the day? As life gets busier, there’s often little time left in the day to do the things that are really important, including emotionally connecting with your children the way you would like. Members of the Sandwich Generation like yourself may feel as if there has never been enough time to meet everyone’s emotional needs. Your parents, relatives, your home, and your job all require a certain amount of your time and energy, leaving very little left for you, your partner, and especially your kids.

There are several simple ways you can give yourself time to engage your children. These six methods can provide your children with the attention they need to feel loved.

1. Unplug and Disconnect to Reconnect

As a society, we rely a lot on our electronic devices. Screen time is a part of daily life for people of all ages. When we use our devices during down time, however, we are missing out on valuable time we could be spending with the people we love the most. How many times have you been in the same room with your family while everyone is staring at a screen? Try unplugging to have a conversation, play a game, or even just watch the same movie. It’ll feel nice to all enjoy the same activity for a change.

2. Eat Meals Together

For busy families, many meals are consumed on the go. Bring back the family dinner table by dedicating certain nights of the week to eating together at the table like a family. Whether home-cooked cuisine or take-out fare, the family will be able to connect emotionally while sitting face to face. Take turns talking about the day or try going around the table to share what makes each person feel grateful.

3. Use Car Rides as Opportunities to Listen

Children require an empathetic ear. Even though they may not know how to express their feelings in the same way as an adult, the feelings are still valid. Rides in the car to and from childcare, school, soccer practice, or to run errands are prime opportunities to ask children what’s on their minds. It is important to listen carefully, validate the feelings, and avoid telling the child how they “should” feel. Eventually, trips in the car will become a place to connect naturally.

4. Find Time for Play

Have you ever wondered why many child therapists use play therapy as a breakthrough technique? The magazine Social Work Today explains the power of play as a way for children to experience the lost art of playtime while making it possible for adults to communicate with a child deeply on their own level. This method can be used in the home by incorporating even just 15 minutes of playtime with your children each day. You’ll be amazed at how deep you will be able to travel into their minds just by simply watching them play and interacting with them in this state.

5. Compliment Good Behavior

On busy days, it’s common to immediately notice when a child is acting up. When stress is already high, a tantrum is going to make you reach your boiling point even faster. Be mindful of your child’s behavior and compliment good behavior often. Saying something as simple as “I am so proud of you for taking your muddy shoes off before you walked through the house” will let your child know you notice their good behavior as well as the bad. This will help increase self-esteem.

6. Take an Unexpected “Fun Day”

Everyone can use a day off once in a while. Instead of taking a sick day, take a personal day! Surprise your child with a day trip for just you and them to enjoy. The ideal “fun day vacation” would be taking part in an activity or visiting a place you will both enjoy.

Bonding is important to any parent/child relationship, and having a day off away from stress or enjoying a simple dinner together may be just what you need to reconnect emotionally.

 

Here is the whole article:

http://www.king5.com/life/family/sandwich-generation/emotionally-engaging-your-child-even-on-your-busiest-days/140115513